Been dating a wonderful man for 7 months. A few nights ago, I texted him "Missin you laying next to me." The response I got back floored me... "Sorry sweetie he's layin next 2 me AGAIN 2night...he ALWAYS has been" So, I did what any other woman would do, I CALLED his phone. His ex answered. We talked for 3 hours. He was passed out. (the good thing is, I KNOW he doesn't mess around when he's drinkin...) She proceeded to tell me she has been the "fill-in" for me, while I can't be there. Problem is, we have spent a LOT of continuous time together. Where was she? I waited til morning, and he called. Told him I had a really weird dream that I talked to his ex. Silence. I ask him if he got my text. No? Look in your IN box. Yep. Remember what you replied? Uh... nope. So I read the reply text. Silence again. Geez, honey, why would you TM something like that...?? He blurts out "She sent you a text?" without realizing he said it. So, he admits she was there. "She just showed up." They broke up well over 8 months ago and he moved into a new house (with a LOT of MY help) 5 months ago. We talked about things for 5 or 6 hours and he came over. We talked and talked. I figured, I have my ex hounding me from time to time and he DID walk right into MY house just a week before and I'M innocent... had no control over it. K. Gave my BF the benefit of the doubt. His ex even texted me after we talked for 3 hours and gave me her home & cell numbers, "call me any time" Well, I haven't. I spent last night at his house, thinking we could get past all this.... until this morning, when I found an earring back in his bed. He swore that she NEVER went in his room, was NEVER in his bed, blah blah blah. He said he would get his # changed. What good is that? So, what do I do?? I DO love him and he is truly a wonderful person. Even if he cheated, I can forgive him, IF he comes forth with the truth. But has he? Am I going to continue finding flaws in his story, that she just showed up (somehow finding out where he lives!) and his only mistake was opening the door and letting her in to "talk" to him, him trying to be a friend to her. After all, her mom died 2 days after this incident. What is everyones advice? I mean, there's so much to her story that I KNOW is a lie, made up, etc. She even TMed him the next day & said "Sorry. I know you hate me now. But I got my revenge" Revenge for what? I don't know. I'd love to see what others think. I probably already know what y'all are gonna say!
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