Desperatelly want my ex back Post a Reply | Views: 248 | Started By: Maggy | Replies: 4 Sorry for my ramblings, I can't stand life at the moment.I just read the whole of the "want my ex back" topic before it was deleted and know exactly what you people are going through.My ex broke up with me (still new as it was only 10 days ago) and I can't seem to control my emotions. I posted a little about this in the broken hearts forum but the general thing was that I never paid her enough attention. I admit that it was 90% my fault and it's mainly because of this and because I didn't see it coming that I think it's hit me hard.I have had a really bad day today, I had a bit of free time at work and spent it writing her the following note: quote: I am in so much pain at the moment, it feels like someone has ripped my heart out and every time it beats it is being stamped on. I have never felt this way about anybody before, and don’t think I could ever cope with feeling this way about anybody else again, If this is love then why does it have to be so very painful. I didn’t used to believe that people could be truly heartbroken, but I am feeling it first hand, and I do not wish this feeling on anybody, I cry at the most ridiculous time and I really can’t see the future if the future doesn’t contain you. I love you with all my heart but was too stupid to realise this at the time, I dream every night of you and you’re the only person I want to grow old with. All I ask is one last chance to make you happy, I will explain to everyone the reasons for our split, and what I have done to change everything about myself to make myself this better person that hopefully you can grow to love again.My life is much better at the moment, but without you to share it with it’s a still feels worthless. So many things go through my mind, all day every day. If I get a single moment during the day that I am not busy, I am thinking of you. I do not believe that I will ever love anyone else with such passion and do not want to even contemplate the future if the future is without you. I have thought so much about what happened between us and I realise that you needed the person that I think I now am. I am sorry it had to come to this to make me realise the error of my ways, but to not give ourselves the chance of true happiness would be unfair to both of us. I want to take you into a moonlit field, light candles and dance with you. I want to shout from the highest mountain and tell everyone how happy I am when I’m with you. Let me date you, start out like we’re only just beginning and see how the future maps out, if you’re not happy then walk away, just like you can at the beginning of a relationship. I’ll be happy because I’ll at least know that I gave it my best shot and you’ll be happy because you’ll have discovered the man that will make you happy for the rest of your life.I don’t want a great deal out of life, I want to find my true love and make her happy for the rest of her life. I want to spend evening in snuggling together, evenings out walking under the stars, I want to hold your hand and feel that it’s a perfect world we live in, and hold you in my arms and make it seem like a perfect world to you. I want someone that makes me laugh, cry, and feel that the most important part of the day is that little smile in my heart whenever I see her face. I want someone to share my joy, to be a shoulder to cry on when you feel pain, to plan the future and look forward to every passing day, as it’s another day together. I could be everything you want if only you’ll give me a chance to show you.Don’t let this be the end of what could be the perfect relationship, sometimes you have to take a step back to be able to continue forward. If you think it’s gone too far and you’ve told too many people, let me talk to the people, explain what happened and explain what I am doing about it.I am not changing my life for the better for you, but I want to share this better life with you. We broke up on a Thursday night, I see her every week and this particular Thursday night she didn't argue, but just said that she didn't really want to talk to me. I then called her on Friday and we had a great conversation, she wasn't feeling too well so I pampered her a little and then said goodbye.Saturday, she was supposed to be going to a party near to my house, but when I called to ask her if she was staying she just told me that she didn't want to see me at all over the weekend. Monday night we saw each other and she made it clear that she didn't want to see me anymore, this destroyed me as although we had argued, I thought all would be fine given a little time. we talked a little over the week, all the time I was thinking that I could win her back until Thursday came round again and she called me and told me to "get over it" and that she would be round at 4pm on Saturday to exchange our belongings.Friday, I had to send her a text message with a number, so I sent her the message and then added "don't call me again as you're breaking my heart". I really didn't know if I wanted to be there on Saturday, but I stayed in and faced her when she came around. We sat and talked for 3 hours and although there was no change in what she said I felt as though something about this whole situation just didn't feel like it should be happening. We hugged a little and then she left. It's now Tuesday and I haven't heard from her and it's breaking my heart. We used to talk so much together that I can't face the quiet evenings alone any more. She asked me to see her on Thursday night, as "we both have to face everyone". This is the night I intend to give her the note, I am going to buy a rose and leave it with the note stuck under her windscreen wiper.Am I rushing things? Will I ever be able to win back someone that I pushed away? Will my heartache ever be replaced by love again?I know these questions are not easily answered, but at the moment I haven't got anyone to talk to because as most people think, "men don't have emotions"

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I read you story and I want you to know that there are a lot of us who are going through such pain as you do. And believe me I know that men have emotions because I do believe that my ex had some. I noticed that you posted in the thread still in love with your ex and I wanted to thank you for that. You know a lot of us there are going through difficult break ups right now and we are all helping eachother. I think that you should post there more often so we all can be there for you. Only if you want to though.My advice to you is just let time pass slowly. Maybe she will come back. Just give her some time to think about the whole situation. In the meantime just try to not worry about it so much. I know that is hard but maybe you can keep yourself busy or something. I hope she does go back to you. Take care. Responded: Speechy   Try to stay away from her as much as possible and not talk about her or talk to her. Start hanging out with other friends and doing stuff to try to keep your mind off of her. Act like you dont give a shit about her and that your over her. See how she acts then.....if you really want to see how she trully feels about you. Get another date. And make sure she finds out about it not from you though, maybe from a mutual friend. Then after the date if she doesnt come crawling back, then its time to get over her and move on . Shit happens all the time in this world. I have had my heart broken 4 times.....haha it gets much better after so many times. Responded: Igor   OH DO NOT GIVE HER THE NOTE!!!!!!!! Let some time pass before you give her that maybe... Responded: Igor   I know it's difficult but only time will tell. It is best to keep and distance. Trust me, she will begin to miss you. Put the note in a drawer for now. The reconstruction of your relationship means self control on your part. Remember, she's thinking about her needs. Responded: Richard