Help!! Biggest Mistake of my life Post a Reply | Views: 2448 | Started By: da wedgie | Replies: 5 Hey, im 16 yrs old, only started dating girls just about 6 months ago and i already did something i never thought id be capible of..Im just going to save everyone the time and give out the details.My first ex, liked to fool around and have fun, so we always did sexual stuff. But she ahted commitment and so we broke up because of that. Tho she was a really cool person so we started to become close, but remianing friends.So then I met my latest ex, and she was different. She wasnt the type of girl who did things like that and was very jelous if i woudl even hug another girl. I was soo used to my first ex that i couldnt take it because i expected things and she wanted to wait months... And of course my ex was telling me how prude she was and to ditch her cause you can find other girls.. but i didnt really mind all that much.. Then my ex wanted to meet up with me this weekend, because she was gonna meet someone for the first time aroundd where i live. I havent seen her in soo long and i was really looking forward to it. But the guy canceled on her, but she still came and saw me. So she came over and we sat on the couch right? She didnt mind me sitting soo close and stuff, and me being a really stupid idiot, went to see how far i could have gone.. and id say in 20 mins later we were upstairs doing the same sexual stuff as we were like if we were going out and it really seemed like she was fine with it. We decided to just be friends with certain priviliges, but as u know, nothing ever turns out the way u wish it to be. The next day she came over again with her friend and we were going to do stuff, but remain friends. I obviously broke up with my girlfriend because what i did the day before wasnt fair to her, and i knew i couldnt live with it if i saw her, and it wasnt fair to my ex that i did stuff with her while still having a gf. But I was alright with the being friends part. But, she wasnt. That night she was telling me how wierd it was, and that she hated it. How she didnt like being used and everything, and saying i was playing her... So i kept telling her how much i would rather forget it ever happened and just stay firends, and i woudlnt ever have done it if i knew i was going to risk loosing her, but she didnt care and was too angry at me to even think about forgiving me. She didnt want anything to do with meSo now i have no idea what to do. I want to e-mail her but i dont want to bombard her with evenmore problems. All i know i that i want her to just be the same friend that i always had, and that i know i can call her if i need advice on anything and just talk about everything.. I dont care about how much action she gives or anything. I just need a direction where to go now, because im at a dead end and everywhere i look, it seems like ill just be heading downhill. Please, anyone, any words of wisdom would be greatly apriciated..

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You had it good with your other x. you should have stuck with the one who didn't need the sexual stuff. That's the kind of girl you want. A nice girl, not one who will mess around with you while you have a girlfriend. But hey, it looks like you love the one who is wrong for you. Hey, I shouldn't talk because I still love my x, and she was nothing but bad for me. Love Is a strange thing isn't it? Responded: broken man   I don't know why so many "good" guys end up getting hurt by a girl who doesn't even deserve him. And to add to it, the guy will stay in love with this chic for forever. It makes no senseI have been one of those girls. You don't deserve that kind of girl. You want one who will be there for you even without the sexual stuff. One who really makes you happy. Find a girl who is like your sencond ex, and stay as far away for the first one as possible. esp. if you get in another relationship. Cut your loses and try not to be so hard on yourself. We all make mistakes and we all end up paying for them. Responded: sherriB22   Evidently you bit off more the you could chew....! U should hav remained with you Ex obivioulsy your feeling for her never died.. You were wrong to be seeing your Girlfriend and fooling around with your Ex....any relationship must consist of trust.. ....Your ex was also wrong to be fooling around with u, knowing that you hav a girlfriend.  ...Space is also an effective healer! U both need to serouly think about how u really feel about each other.Time will tell... I hope my short words of advice short words of advice has helped ! Best wishes Elizabeth   Responded: Elizabeth   Hi, Elizabeth  !! Thanks for your reply! I will think yuor words over. Responded: da wedgie   mmk.. you were way wrong to use your sexual friend like that. i mean u need 2 find someone that u can base the relationship on more than se*.. understand!? & dont date someone if u kno u n ur ex r gonna hook up & the reason she is havin a hard time wit cn u n stuff is b/c she has feelings for you! u need 2 tell her how u feel & see where that goes & if it doesnt go ne where, then u can never say u didnt try.. Responded: ash